They say that leaders are born, not made. While it is true that some people are born leaders, some leaders are born in the midst of adversity. Often, simple people who have never had a leadership role will stand up and take the lead when a situation, they care about, requires it. A simple example is parenting. When a child arrives, many parents discover leadership abilities they never knew existed in order to protect and guide their offspring.
Once you learn the techniques of true leadership and influence, you will build the confidence required to become a leader and take the lead. It may not be easy to always take the lead, because a leader has to make tough decisions and face challenges, but it becomes natural and rewarding as you gain experience in the leadership role